And the sooner you really hear this and absorb it, the better. Distance is your only protection. And down to the bone, after talking to girls about this -- if she likes you as a friend and doesn't want to get it on it means she does not find you attractive. IME, "you're a better boyfriend for someone else" means the sex is really bad. The best thing you can do for your mental health is distance yourself from her for a while.
Eventually, you pick yourself up and find the courage to date people who are actually attracted to you. But I cringe at the idea of you using someone else as "rebound. Who likes his feelings to be crushed by his crush, eh? It was love at first sight, but I've never had the courage to tell her the way I feel. She doesn't want to hurt you by telling you that you're not her type, so she's inadvertently driving you crazy by speaking in what she feels is the most soft language possible. She didn't want to hurt your feelings. So, what golden rule should you remember? I'm also with crush: Better to just be you, and let the chips fall where they may. Having to argue with someone about why you don't want to sleep with them or date them when, at some level, the answer is "because I just don't feel that way about you" is a bad situation to be in [leading to the "it's not you, it's me" answer that anonymous gets, it's a way to avoid that talk and she probably also means it]. For many, they probably do this for mixed reasons. Continue to be a good friend to her if you want, but only if you want to be her friend, not because you hope she'll come around. By the way, I'm proceeding on the assumption that you're not happy with being friends with her — that, in fact, you were never interested in friendship alone. If she's not setting you up within a couple months, forget her. For years, I got the "nice guy" treatment, and that's still pretty much who I am. But I think basically the same analysis applies to men and women here. The way she hugs you might be platonic sans any hint of romance. If you're a romantic, watch Cinema Paridiso for some advice on how to win the heart of a woman who only wishes to be friends. Continuing to hang with her will bring you pain. It's not impossible that her feelings might change down the road, stranger things have happened, but for now, be her friend, and be a good one. Sometimes it is literally chemistry - just the way they smell. And what the heck should I do about the whole thing? Those of us who weren't born looking like Brad Pitt often decide that physical appearance isn't important and that anyone who cares about it is shallow, so we purposefully don't invest time and energy into making ourselves look better. There's no wiggle room here. It's chemistry, it's out of your control.
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